Re - a wonderful day

Feather,

Thanks for your feedback. As many master chikans here have said, you have to judge the woman at every step. Since the upper thigh is so sensitive, women who don't want to be groped get alerted immediately and shift or communicate resistance. I usually don't pursue them. But others will welcome the touch -- although I agree that this is a grey zone and you can't really be sure. I've found that engaging women in conversation makes them feel relaxed, and reassures them that you are a gentleman who won't become violent or use force at any time. So they don't feel threatened, even if they might feel uncomfortable as they get aroused. The maximum risk is that they slowly stop talking, look down and glare at you or snap "stop that" -- although that hasn't happened to me ever (I've been politely rebuffed several times, or have guaged unwillingness at an early stage.)
Chikaning is a game with hundreds of levels -- at every level, you are negotiating with the woman. SLight touch. Ok? Gentle rub. OK? sliding finger upward. Ok? and so on.... If you are playing the game right, especially with a woman over the age of 22 or so, chances are the woman knows exactly what you are up to, and is wilfully allowing you to climb from one level to the next until she decides time out. The only thing is -- is she allowing you to continue because she's afraid? That's not a good thing in my book, because it could end up in a dangerous situation. If you present yourself -- through conversation or any other means -- as a well-groomed educated guy who is gentle and not a riff-raff, then you take fear out of the equation.
Of course, we all know how complicated these matters are -- many women will play the game hesitatingly for a few levels before being overcome by guilt and putting a stop to it. SOme will be very enthusiastic for the first few levels and then be overcome by hatred. Others will first test you to make sure you will stop when they give you a clear sign -- if you pass the test, they will play. Yet others will appreciate the attention, and hunger for it -- but will not allow the touch to cross over from the sensual to the sexual. And then there are others who have played the game so often that unless you advance through the first few levels quickly enough, they'll get impatient and lose their attraction for you. The majority of women are unsure if they want it -- their first reaction, I think, is shock, followed by thrill, followed by delight and then guilt. The chikan's goal is to minimize shock, enhance thrill and delight for long enough to let the woman rationalize her behavior.

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